Me, Myself and the Boys

Men come from Mars ?

What is it with men? This question has been haunting me all weekend. They always say that men don't get women at all, but the truth is. We women, or I should speak for myself, I don't get men...
I have dated about 3 guys in the past 3 weeks. And as an illustration, I'll tell you how the dates went...

The first guy was a guy I met on my vacation. Me and my best friend went to Crete, a great party place I can recommend. My friend and I went out on our first night. We wanted to meet some boys and we did! She met a great guy, very sweet and totally her type. I met some one who was not really my type, but he was really charming. He had a nice body and cute blue eyes. We had a great first night. We just kissed. After that I went to our appartment.
The next day we would meet again, my friend was still with the first guy she met. So was I, but that night he told me something. He told me he sometimes kissed guys, just for fun. I'm a very open person so I didn't really matter, I just said: "Oh so you're a bi-sexual?" "No no!" He said." I just kiss them for fun." Ok I have to admit this was really one of the strangest things, but hé he chose to be with me instead of a guy this vacation, so I didn't care. The next day would be his last night on Crete. So my friend and I had to say goodbye to our "summer-boyfriends". But before they went home, we had to party big time! Of course. When I was talking to my guy all the sudden his best friend comes up and right in front of me he kisses his best friend. I didn't know what happened. What the... was this!? And if you thought this was the end oh no it wasn't. After that he kissed me again and then kissed his óther friend. I gave up, I didn't care, because he was such a good kisser. But when the night came to an end and we had to leave. His best friend, the one he kissed first, invited me to their appartment. And not without reason, no, to have a threesome. Ok that was a little too far for me. So that was a no thank you...
But now that I'm back from vacation, I still have contact with him, because he's such a nice boy to talk to. So he's still on my mind sort of. I really don't get it: the fact that I think this idea was crazy, I still like him. How do guys do it?

The second guy was also on Crete, the second week. I forgot my first guy a little bit and so did my best friend. We met a new group of guys. Really nice boys. But when thát guy walked in to the room, I thought: "Ok he's mine!" He was so hot, totally my type. Tall, black hair, nice face, grey eyes and a perfect body. He was too good to be true. At the club we couldn't get our hands of each other, so we decided to take this in to our appartment. It was still fantastic. In the appartment we got to second base, but after that it was time for some sleep. And then...
I was trying to get some sleep and all he could say was: "Oh it's so hot in here! And what's that noise?" All night long... So yeah he was too good to be true. "You know what I'm going to bring you to your own appartment and go get my friend", who was sleeping in their appartment with my man's cousin. When we were walking to their appartment he said: "You know, I had an amazing night with you, but I don't think I want to go further with you." The fact that he even thóught that I wanted a relationship with him, pissed me off. But with a forced smile I was able to say: "of course" And as soon as I could I dumped him and got my friend back.
Really WHY do men think that we women always want a relationship. Sometimes we just want to have some fun.

The third guy. He was a guy I had already met before my vacation and I liked him. He was hot AND he had a nice personality. Before my vacation I had kissed him and we sort of made a deal. Who would spend one night together: Full sex, no strings attached. We both thought this would be great. Cause he just had a relationship of three year and didn't want one. Me neither!
So when I got back from Crete, I went out to see my friends again. At the bar where we always go, I saw him. And we started talking. At the point that we were so close, I wanted to kiss him, he pulled back and said:"I don't kiss in public" Ok... 5 minutes later he came up to me and whispered in my ear:"I'm going outside" As he walked away he blinked at me. I would wait for two more minutes and go after him. When I got outside he was leaning against a building. "Come on, I'll show you where I work." I knew he was a chef at a restaurant, but it was 2 am. Why would he like to show me right now? We entered the restaurant. "Ok now I'll show you my domain," he said. He let me in the kitchen, I took a look around and then the lights went out. We started kissing, it was só passionate. We undressed each other and we got to second base. We got interrupted by my mom, who called that I should come home immediately. Too bad, but we didn't have a condom, so sex wouldn't have worked anyway.
But last Thursday I saw him again. He was very sweet to me. "And is there going to be a second night?" I asked very carefully. I don't know what happened, but he was like:"Well uhm I don't know yet, I have to think about it..." et cetera. So I was kind of annoyed by that. Cause what I think, is that he thinks I want a relationship, or that I'm falling in love with him. So he said he would send me a message if he would know the answer to my question. He would send it any day now. And to be honest I'm still waiting for that sms.

Ok these were my experiences, and these were only from the past three weeks! So can you imagine that I don't really get guys. They're all a bit of a mistery. I have no clue what to think of any of them! Accept the fact that they were all goodlooking. And now I espescially hope for the third guy, cause face it: he is the best. So I hope I get that message soon... any day now. Or maybe never? Cause what do I know about men, do they keep their word or is that something they use to deceive me, us, women... ?

posted by Fiona @ 3:11 AM